Acceptance Of What Is Reduces Stress-巴雷特m82a1

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Stress-Management "Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally." Eckhart Tolle I don’t know about you, but when I first read the above quote from Tolle, years ago, I fought it for a very long time. To me, acceptance meant saying it was OK, that I approved of the situation. How could I accept these totally unacceptable things in my life? I just could not. However, I have since learned that acceptance of what is has nothing to do with saying its right or proper or should continue. It has nothing to do with condoning the actions of others. It has to do with finding inner peace. With observing the circumstance as it is and accepting that it is actually happening now, or has in fact happened in the past. No judgment. The person or situation is just allowed to be. Then, from that place of acceptance grows the ability to move forward and create a change in whatever parts of it you can and want to change. Sometimes there is nothing you can do. But if you were able to do something, you would be doing it from a place of acceptance of what is in that moment. You would be .ing from a much calmer, more peaceful place, a much more clear-headed place, out of which to act. Right this moment, have a look at your life and choose at least one "unacceptable" thing that has happened or is happening. Baby steps. Make it something fairly small to start with. Then, focus on it, without labels, just focus on the situation, the memory, the person, whatever .es up. Where can you feel it within your body? What part of your body changes in some way (contracts, tingles, or be.es un.fortable) as you begin this exercise? Put your attention there, breathe into it, relax into it, realize that this is a part of your life. It has happened, it is happening. Calmly feel the feelings, the sensations, without labeling them. Remember, don’t make them wrong, don’t even call them a ‘sick feeling’ or pain, don’t think of it as grief or upset or anger. No labels! Most specifically, see if you can just let go of the resistance to what is. Rid yourself of the NO to this moment. Just drop it. You may be surprised by how quickly things shift and just how quickly a greater measure of peace .es over you. You may now even be in a position to find new ways to perceive this situation or person. Provide a new spin on it, if you will. And, from a place of acceptance, you will be able to more calmly take any action that seems appropriate in this moment. The action step need not be directly related to the "wrong" or "bad" situation, either. It might be that you let it go from more than the emotional perspective. Maybe you tear up pictures that remind you of the person or situation, or throw away the box of stuff from that old boyfriend that’s been bugging you to have around. It’s up to you. What would help you feel better immediately? Acceptance of what is in your life reduces your stress levels, lets you think more clearly, to shift more of your awareness into the present moment. So stick with it. Take baby steps. Be gentle with yourself. Just do the things you can, what feels right to you, to feel better now. You’re worth it! Kim O’Hara About the Author: 相关的主题文章:

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